You all know that I'm not a very controversial blogger. I don't post things simply for the sake of riling people up. The few times that I do write opinionated posts I try to write longer, researched posts to get my point across. And generally my topics tend to stick pretty close to issues that are important to me, like, ahem, women's rights and maternity leave most recently. This is mostly because I don't believe that anything I write here will change anyone's opinion. I write in order to explain where I'm coming from and why I believe the things I do, and perhaps open eyes to a different opinion, but ultimately I don't believe that I'm going to fundamentally change anyone else's beliefs with a blog post.
But I'm thinking I'm probably going to have a few more posts that some might see as controversial as I go through this whole pregnancy thing. Not because I actually think I'm doing or saying anything controversial. But because being pregnant is a huge part of my life right now and it seems like in the world of mom's and babies and blogs there's a whole lot of ways to stir up controversy. I should point out again that whatever I write here won't purposely be trying to do that, but rather I just want to talk about my views on the subject at hand. And that I hope people will take it in that vein (I'm pretty sure my handful of readers are awesome and will understand that. Just thought I should actually say it).
I bring all of this up because a friend wrote a great post yesterday on a few controversial topics and her thoughts on them. I loved it! I hope she expands on some of those topics as well. But on twitter she talked about being nervous to post it because of not knowing how people would react. As I said, I'm really glad she did hit publish because I think it's important to be able to talk openly (and respectfully) about our opinions plus I really like to hear about what others think as they go through a similar experience to me. It's nice to feel like I'm not the only one who's thinking about doing something. It also helps when I start feeling defensive about something I read online to ask myself why - usually it's because I don't feel very comfortable with my choice and it helps to think it through a bit more.
In particular, her point about loving pregnancy struck a chord with me. I find it interesting that saying that would be viewed as controversial, but it does seem like a lot of times we hear about how hard pregnancy is for a lot of women (either the getting pregnant part, or the terrible morning sickness, or whatever else it might be). I'm not sure I'd go so far as to say that I love being pregnant (I've had some body image issues that I've been working through, as well as some pretty normal aches and pains that will probably just get worse as I get bigger). But so far I have enjoyed the process. It's really cool to know that my body just knows how to do this! I made one conscious decision and then my body took over from there to grow this tiny new person (or alien as he/she has affectionately been called around these parts). I know that not everyone has that experience, so I'm really trying to pay attention during this time and to be grateful for what my body can do.
So out of curiosity, is there anything in particular that people are curious about? One of the other topics that Amy brought up was about how they saved for her maternity leave. Personally, I'm really hoping that she expounds on that as it's something that B and I are likely going to have to do as well (I haven't fully worked out the details of my leave yet, but I am anticipating that the best case is part of it will be paid, but we need to prepare for the worst case that none of it will be paid. Yeah, that's going to be fun to figure out).